I read both on Foamy's and Diane's blog
http://www.blogger.com/profile/14394546886035933252 http://hereismyheart-dianne.blogspot.com/the 10 things about them and thought that they are both such nice and lovely ladies and I am not at all like that. So here comes my contrast-post, so you can all get a complete shock and see what a pig I really am...
1) Diamonds are a girls best friend - so they say! Truth is, I really don't care much for jevellery at all, unless it's a true piece of art and then I wouldn't wear it, I would just gaze at it and admire it like a precious painting. Also the life I live... I couldn't possibly wear anything at all without it catching anywhere or a finger getting torn off... My husband and I only wore wedding rings on our wedding day, after that we put them discretely away.
- Still... who says diamonds are not for me... just got myself a nice diamond-sharpner in Lapland - and it really works as well as I had hoped... gut the cuts to prove it!
2) pms, sex and cheating...
My husband knows if he wants to live, he won't make any remarks about pms!
Sex: have been married to the same guy for more than 20 years (and known him for 7 more) and we have 2 children, so we must have done it at least twice... no wait, the first one was with my ex... alright then: we did it at least once, but that one must definitely have been really good - to last this long!!!
Cheating: too exhausting! Can't fit it into my schedule... and besides the ole man is really cute... why else would I have stayed with him all that time?!
another girlie-thing: shopping! I buy tools, building materials, food, houses and that sort of thing - everything second hand - except for the food of course! I never eat in restaurants (why pay for getting food poisoning?) and make lots of stuff myself that others would pay for - trying to keep the "latte-factor" down you know...
4) faith: I was brought up to believe that everybody who had a believe or a religion he was happy with, was a manipulated idiot. But those were the words of the people who for a good reason did not to believe in God or any sort of higher ground and couldn't see beyond basic physical needs.
Their actions were in fact pretty bad and believing in judgement day, life after death, God as a higher being, higher states of excistence... any sort of thing like that would have had the consequence that they either would have needed to come to terms with their crimes or sins, if you want to call it that or that they would probably have concluded that they would rot in hell forever.
They chose to ignore all of that, committed even more harmful acts and yes, I suppose they really are rotting in hell eternally. Because unless you decide to look for higher ground, establish a code of honor for yourself and find the guts to face both yourself and your actions... you are lost and there is only the way down. True enough, that course can always be reversed, but who's got the guts to do it? It's a really, really tough thing to do and I absolutely admire people who have committed terrible crimes but manged to turned it all around afterwards and are working on making up the damage. nobody is innocent but very few have got in them to admit it and to do soemthing about it!
God to me is everywhere. You just have to open your heart and act in the image of God. Your concious will guide you. I see love and understanding as the essence of God and I really believe in that to show us the way. I respect people's religions, many of them have a lot of good ideas and wisdom in them. But I personally keep my own counsel.
4) turn ons: I love the Arctic, would love to move either to the north coast of Norway or somewhere on the west coast of Ireland, or REALLY north! I need the stormy weather and the wind! Makes me feel alive, love nature, rough terrain and sunrises and sunsets.
I appreciate a good sense of humor, definitely! If you don't even have that, you're really fucked, when the going gets tough!
Being able to cope with any situation and being able to face the truth are qualities I admire in people and which I need of those who are close to me.
Turn offs:
Treason is something that completely freaks me out and people who manipulate and suppress others and those who do their dirty work for them and won't admit it.
5) have always dreamt of having a little amphibium up north, but the truth is, I may never get aPPL this lifetime and I don't even have a driver's licence - but who cares about that? The only place I need to drive is in the far north and no bear is gonna come and check me out there...
6) patience is something I admire in other people, but honestly I'm really lousy at it and I have a hard time not commanding people around. Sorry...
7) I do get the job done and I appreciate honesty and find selfdiscipline and organization most important. I live by a code of honor and my actions are on the whole for the greatest good, I do not consider my own survival to be more important than what is for the greatest good. I do not believe what people say. I judge them only by statistcs, actions and in concept. I can not be bought, sold, bribed, blackmailed or tortured to do what others want. I live what I believe and there's no dirt to dig up, because I actually do have clean hands. - As for the rest of my body... well those lovely ladies are just sooo clean and civilized! I'm not like that at all, I fit into the category "pig" I would say. The only cosmetics I use are toothpaste and shampoo - that's it! And it's gotta be as ecological as possible! But when it comes to food - you'll find nowhere cleaner than what I prepare!
8) Funny enough, both Diane and Foamy write about lack of a sense of direction. I wonder if this is a coincidence and what would be typical. Hm... well, it's completely the opposite with me, I don't need a compass to orientate myself, I more or less always know where I am and my husband uses me often when we're abroad to get us home. But I suck at reading maps. Or at least maps in connection with sign posts that really don't harmonize. So I usually drop the map, take look at the sun and remember how many times we've gone in which direction... works perfectly and I never get lost.
Another aspect of direction: I don't believe in any established system or education. I never swallow any lies without checking things out myself. We home-schooled our youngest successfully and I am also the family's "doctor", taking care of minor surgeries as well...
9) memory: I've got a lousy memory for names and numbers, because I don't wanna waste any attention on those - makes things too complex. But otherwise I have a very good and detailed memory, estimate correctly and am able to predict the future and human behaviour very well. I do believe in past-lives. Didn't used to though, but after having been often enough close to death, it's kind of interesting what you experience, if you chose to keep your eyes open...
10) romance and health: never took street drugs and all the psychopharmica I had this lifetime amount to half a pill of valium, which the police insited on after an accident, because they really didn't like my testimony - and who can say it didn't work? They shut up immediately! Anyway... have always eaten fairly healthy, don't drink alcohol, coffee, tea or smoke... like Bourbon though... but don't really drink it anymore, only use alcohol as a spice or for disinfection...
Doesn't mean though I have a perfect body. Have lived a tough life, mostely under what felt like pretty mercyless conditions, and that kind of thing leaves its traces. But that's a choice you make. You can't both have your cake and eat it.
Romance... hm... so important to others... and perhaps I really should do something about it and act a little more romantic... well maybe... but I still have other things to do and how romantic can it get anyway when the guy you're not just superfically in love with, but who you actually do love and have been loving for ages, is also your best friend and thinks and does the same things that you do? The element of surprise and the distance you need in order to make your romantic attempts of getting closer are gone. You are close. As close as it can get! Sometimes it really shocks me, when he doesn't only think what I think, but also phrazes it in exactly the very same words! - Well at least one can't say that we live in different worlds and are keeping secrets from each other... We do have the same targets and goals, do somehow manage to stay on track together to reach them... and that's also something, isn't it?
We also don't have distant relationships to our boys, they're very close to us as well and we don't only share our life with them by often being physically in the same location, we are also spiritually and idialically close.
Hate distance! Can't see why not all mankind should be this close. We could all be best friends if it wasn't for the lies and treason of a very few covert cowards who are pushing a sick agenda...
Mind you gentleness is something very different to romance and my husband truely is a British gentleman. But when it comes to me... well there's nothing gentle about me, I am the total opposite, but I try to be a good girl and try to be more considerate... He by the way has also been the real mother in the family with all that soft and sweet stuff. I on the other hyand have taught my sons disciplin and how to stand up for themselves and what they know to be right and that can't be underestimated either. You need both qualities. We work together, so all areas are getting covered and resources used best.
So, I bet you all now think I really am the worst kind of an excuse for a female, and everybody's complete nightmare... don't you? But don't worry, you're not alone. My boys will agree to that - without hesitation!
